I’ve seen a few tweets and comments from bloggers recently along the lines of ‘I’ve been thinking of blogging about X, but I’m worried because it’s quite a controversial view’.
Embrace it. Run with it.
I would ALWAYS rather read a blog post that’s really out there, or experimental, or even just plain wrong – than safe-on-the-verge-of-dull…and to be honest, I can’t think of a single person who wouldn’t.

Be open and adaptable with your arguments
If people don’t agree with what I write anywhere on the web and they construct a good argument or a different viewpoint, I use it as an opportunity to refine my own thoughts. And if necessary, reconstruct my argument or writing to get my viewpoint or changed perception across in a more effective way. It’s not always necessary, but in a lot of fields it’s imperative to have another viewpoint or opinion.
All contributions are useful in a constructive debate
If you know you’re right, stick to your guns. Don’t hedge and use ‘maybes’ and ‘possiblys’ because you want to avoid conflict. Don’t let anyone convince you that your opinion isn’t valid.
In the same vein, you’re not trying to force someone that you’re right and they’re wrong. You should be taking away a different perspective rather than trying to beat someone down or end up crying in a corner. The worst debates are the non-productive kind. In these situations, just step away from it and save yourself the time and stress. If a forum discussion is going nowhere, I won’t bother to carry on arguing my point because it just becomes a time-sink.
Even if you’ve been proved ‘wrong’, you’ve created a spark of discussion for other people to feed off and extend and contribute towards – more than you’ll ever know. And that’s a pretty powerful position to be in. It’s ok to be wrong. Arguing against people is actually one way of working with them.
Agreement doesn’t equal success
The other way to look at it is: this is the internet. By its very nature and throughout its entire history people have been using it as a medium for arguing and debating and criticising, whether justly or unjustly. Because they genuinely believe something is wrong, or they like debate, or they’re having a bad day and fancy a troll – whatever the reason. At the end of the day you’re never going to please everyone no matter what you say and do, so say what you want to say and need to say, even if it’s just to please yourself.
Playing safe is not progression
If no one ever objected to anything that was said, the human race would be far less advanced. Whether it’s a way of coding something or cooking food or governing a country, debate is how we learn and improve.
Fundamentally, if you have a way of making people think differently, even if it’s simply on an inspirational level, you should take that opportunity. If someone can take what you’ve done and turn it into something better, then you’ve both achieved something. And that something has changed the world, even if it’s only in a small way.




8 Comments
I completely agree with you here. Although I’m not that strong at debating in person – I tend to get bored trying to get my argument across when people have a different opinion – I enjoy debating online and I find it interesting to discover different opinions on a certain subject. It’s always interesting to read blog posts when they have something to say that is different from the mainstream idea, even if it’s “wrong”.
09/07/2012 at 8:24 pmI used to absolutely love debating, however I weakened as I have been going though school because I never properly learned how to debate. I agree with your opinion, it is amazing how your comment can help generate other opinions. I guess I am just a rebel in a sense, I like to go against the grain.
12/07/2012 at 10:54 pmI love this! I have definitely been scared off from posting things online because of people’s reactions but this totally puts it in perspective.
18/07/2012 at 7:49 pmI agree with you, I believe people who sit on the fence or don’t have a opinion that is on either side of the debate. For example, I’m very liberal and I would never agree with someone who has really conservative views just to please them.
Michael :)
16/08/2012 at 5:48 pmWhat you said there was just right. Everyone has to at least make a stand; it doesn’t matter whether they’re right or wrong because in the end, it won’t really matter. The most important thing is that you’ve stated your opinion because debate is, and will always be, the cornerstone of every decision.
17/08/2012 at 1:23 amI try not to say crazy things that people are going to oppose me in public because a lot of the time they know more than me and prove me wrong haha. Then I feel dumb. But my manager says stuff to me sometime and I’m like no it’s supposed to be this way. And I have been right most of the time. I like it haha. Or if I’m not right per say, my opinion also makes sense just like his does.
20/08/2012 at 3:09 amI completely agree! I love how you have been able to sort this all out in a way everyone can understand. Debating isn’t bad. Having a different opinion isn’t bad. It can be a good mental exercise which I personally enjoy doing myself.
06/02/2013 at 8:33 pmGreat article, which is now my favourite blog post on the internet in terms of message and moving forwards.
I cast out my rod to see how it would go for me to challenge some fairly debated topic I saw somebody tweeting about. There was a whole community suggesting that female coders in the web industry live in fear of rape from male coders. I found that bizarre, although my views clearly touched a few nerves and I quickly became one of the most hated men on the internet… Not so sure I took your advice so well – perhaps too literally – haha!
That being said, I still passionately stand by my original thoughts, and still disbelieve there is a reason for females to feel preyed upon by us men – or at least, that’s something I’ve certainly never been a part of or seen! I’d hate to think females felt like that and believed their choice in career was a motivating factor.
I personally think a female who codes is a life-partner, and can’t fathom it!
Thanks for the great post and advice, it was liberating!
Ben.
15/12/2013 at 12:42 am